Family Advocacy

When planning to advocate for your family it is important to ask the right questions of the healthcare provider. Click below to see some examples we suggest to ask

One of the most difficult things to do with family is to discuss the "what if's" when it comes to planning health, wellness, and yes, death. In order to be the best advocate for your family you must have this conversation.  Use our guide to help start the conversation.

Are your (or your families) expectations realistic? 

Let's analyze and put things into perspective

 We can't stress it enough bring that pen and paper!!

Time is not on your side when you visit a provider. 

• Appointments: Write down providers recommendations

• Surgery: Questions for before and after. Surgical departments are extremely busy and it's easy to forget questions

• Hospitalization: Write down names and services of your providers (you'll meet several) better yet ask them to write it down for you so spelling is correct. Also, the plan of care, and any questions

• Finally, ask the provider to SLOW DOWN AND SPEAK CLEARLY so you can understand what is being said.

You can do it!

Remember you are advocating for the best care of your family. Use the tools we've offered to make informed decisions for the care of your loved one. Do not allow providers to sway you in a direction that does not follow your families wishes, values, or beliefs. 

Have your documentation ready and available if there are any disputes. Be clear about the decisions made and say to the providers: "I am here to advocate for my ________, these are their wishes and I expect that we honor them" 

No further explanation is needed.

End-of-life issues are very difficult to navigate and everyone has a different experience and situation.

This is why it is so important, at any age, to prepare for the "what if's" so that your family doesn't have to make the decisions for you during very stressful and difficult times.

However, if there is no POLST, POA, or any directions of care to follow, family is responsible to make very tough choices.

Culture, Values, Religion, Faith, Beliefs, and Experiences all factor into making the best decision for your family member. But also remember quality of life is a significant consideration. Although hard, saying no to invasive treatments is okay.